Remember a while back I asked you for some help writing my first book? For those who have only just discovered my blog recently, you can read about it here :
To jog your memories, the book is about parenting - specifically pregnancy and birth. Babies' first year will be my next book!
I want it to be a book to be non-preachy, technicoloured, artistic and pretty. And I want it to be a realistic snapshot of pregnancy and birth for mamas and papas to be, with a good dose of nitty gritty as well as the beautiful, happy, pretty side of things. One for the ravers, goths, punks, bon-viveurs, hippies and indie types that your Miriam Stoppard type preggie book is not going to appeal to. There's already some beautiful hippy books for hippy-minded maidens like myself but not a lot going on for the wider 'alternative' audience.
I want to acknowledge the fact that a woman having a baby in this day and age is likely to have had a more colourful past than in days gone by. I want to acknowledge that a pregnant mother is not just some blank slate incubator, but a real live person with experiences! Good, bad and everything in between.
I want to acknowledge and talk about how women feel about being pregnant after
- having an abortion
- taking drugs or frequently drinking a lot of alcohol - how has this affected you positively or negatively?
- being raped or sexually abused
- having an affair or relationship problems
- being a heavy smoker
- being declared infertile
- having an amazing job
- being adopted
- experimenting with sexuality - bisexual or lesbian experiences
- self harming or having anorexia/ bulimia
- overcoming something very traumatic
- having suffered only miscarriages so far...
I want the book to be able to talk about the stuff you wouldn't dream of discussing at antenatal classes. Stuff that you couldn't share easily with newly made mummy friends. Stuff you would feel uncomfortable discussing with your midwife.
I feel it's important to help women who find themselves pregnant to have a space where past things can be acknowledged as she navigates her way through the emotional roller coaster that is pregnancy and motherhood!
We modern women have lived much more colourful lives than most generations ever before, huh? So it's about time this was acknowledged!
If anyone has any experiences they could share with me in confidence to use in my book to comfort and reassure others who are further back on the path than you are now, I'd love to hear from you. It could be advice you wish you could go back in time and give yourself. It could be a photo that says it all. It could be a poem you wrote. An entry in your diary. A blogpost even! Anything at all would be so great.
Thank you so much in advance! If you decide to confide in me, I absolutely promise that no information will be shared with my husband, nearest and dearest, friends or family and your identity will remain absolutely and completely anonymous and confidential.
Please dearest people submit your material to me by the end of February. Even sooner would be fab!
Incidentally I have been giving a lot of thought to the charities this book will support. Whilst I think both Warchild and HOPE are very worthy, I think there are other causes which may be better suited. Watch this space!
Lots of love
Xx Motherfunker xX